For starters, you should know that I am one not to buy into the idea of the concept of a ‘Nigerian relationship’.
And just to re-emphasize, this article is just for fun as I am constantly amused by certain standards when dating a Nigerian.
As much as we’d like to deny it, dating has evolved from being just a social part of life to self-expression. Individuals decide to share their life experiences with their partners and all of that fancy stuff.
In this part of the world as every other place, by the way, dating is done differently. Opposed to whatever culture you might be exposed or used to, dating in Nigeria has some rather peculiarities that make up a little above average expectation of the dating population.
Because of my lack of motivation on this matter and your laziness to read beyond a thousand words, I’ll be reviewing only five dating cultures common to Nigerians in Nigeria.
Never, Ever make the first move with your boyfriend
If you are a pure breed Nigerian female, you’d understand the concept of looking up to a man. You might not have taken out time to actually analyze this about yourself or other females, (and of course you’re not to be blamed, we blame the numerous Owanbes you have to attend to catch a potential husband material), but the average Nigerian female is conditioned to depend.
Forget the recent popular talk about feminism and boss lady syndrome, Nigerian women are culturally conditioned to look up to a man be it her brother, uncle, cousin, husband, boss, sugar-daddy or boyfriend.
The Nigerian males too are not unaware of their stand in the matter beware. They too have been conditioned to dominate the world and women of course so right from a very young age, males know they are supposed to provide for the females in their lives. Now don’t get your sweet asses worked up about these statements (in case you haven’t realized, I bought some satirical groceries for this piece).
So whether it is in bed as a Nigerian female screams the name of the Lord, or making phone calls, a Nigerian girlfriend is never allowed to make any first moves. It doesn’t matter that she misses her boyfriend so bad, she must never ever call him first.
Unsurprisingly, a certain school of thought among the dating Nigerian female find it necessary to always make the males want them first. That way they conclude, ‘he’d have more respect for you’.
By all means be her eating tracker
If you are active on the Nigerian dating scene, the phrase, ‘have you eaten?’ is definitely not strange to your ears. Ridiculously spawn to somehow translate to ‘I love you and care about you’, this phrase might perhaps overthrow its predecessor, ‘I love you’
Shockingly, complaining about the constant throw of this phrase could piss the concerned male in question. Beware, ladies.
If you’re a true Nigerian male you’d know the extra responsibilities that come with dating an average Nigerian female. LIke I have mentioned, Nigerian females are fundamentally raised to rely on a man.
Your Nigerian mum would send you on specific errands like making dinner or the family, washing the dishes etc. accompanied with something along the line of, ‘…when you get to your husband’s house‘ The constant ringing of that phrase slowly and strongly imprints a certain type of Mills and Boon romance in the minds of these Nigerian females.
It is however not strange that these females grow up and get into relationships expecting their partners to take complete charge of every financial responsibility.
Love is as beautiful in a Nigerian relationship as everywhere else. But when the doubts set in, that love may turn sour. And these doubts, together with insecurities might prompt a Nigerian partner to transform into a monitoring spirit.
The popular opinion that Nigerian females are better at investigation than secret agents is no joke. A curious Nigerian female will legit hack through her boyfriend’s accounts and find out the necessary info she needs. If you a true Nigerian female, you probably have helped your friend stalk her boyfriend’s ex or an opposing suspected side-chick.
Nigerian males are not also exempt from the shackles of monitoring the activities of their partners. Don’t be so shocked your Nigerian boyfriend has a close-knit of friends and acquaintances watching your back and every move.
Social media has made stalking our ex’s, partners and crushes very conveniently, the only mistake would be to accidentally like a picture from May 2015.
But don’t get this twisted o. Nigerians are very good partners. The sauce a Nigerian would bring to a relationship is way above 100 percent.
Like I disclaimed at the beginning of this article, you really do not want to take anything written here seriously. Nigerians make beautiful, smart, intelligent, amazing, hardworking, romantic (best belie that), and most adventurous partners. I will not even go into their culinary expertise as that is even an unnecessary noise to make. In the same way, my Warri people would say, ”Dem no dey beg shit smell”, Nigerian partners are no doubt amazing cooks and partner.
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